INDEPENDENCE

Independence is not an option. That is what this is all about. Having the spirit of independence is not an option but a necessity.

This must be an integral part of the scaffolding you use to construct your life.

Join with others in being independent.

Day 11 from letterstomygirlfriends from I Can Do This

You Are Worth the Effort

How  does one start a climb? Spend your days renewing your vision. Apply everything you do towards your growth.

Do you care for children? Think how that relates to Human Resources or conflict resolution, child psychology, menu planning, personal shopper, accounts payable/receivable. Do you take care of a home? Dinner? How about hospitality, cost effectiveness comparisons, scheduling. I am not suggesting that you go out and apply for these positions. I am just pointing out that you contribute so much to everyday life. If you think about all you contribute you should be amazed and fortified in spirit. You need to see yourself as someone who has a lot to offer. Don’t let the years that you worked in your home make you think less of yourself.

Today there is an underlying contest raging between those who stay home and those who do not.. Guess what people…..It is not a contest! A title does not make you more or less of a person and neither does your pay. I am pretty sure that you know, intuitively, that you are a capable person with lots to offer.

Do what you can to improve your mind at every opportunity, knowing that you are going to need new skills when you enter into your new world.

Watch the news. All the news. Not the left or the right, but both. Keep current. Read. You cannot read too many books. Make yourself informed and interested and interesting and viable to those you meet. Create in yourself, a person who would be interesting to you. Above all else, be good to yourself. Love yourself. Pat yourself on the back every morning for making the effort to change your life. You are worth the effort. No one deserves to live in fear or despondency.

Others will respond positively if you are positive. And if they don’t, you won’t mind. You are your own person at the end of each day. Live accordingly. Do everything you can to your best ability, even when you don’t want to. When you do this you learn to respect yourself. That translates into confidence to all you meet. The I CAN DOattitude is contagious and sought after. It makes you desirable.

No regrets either. You are where you are because you needed to be there. The journey was what it was and is continuing. All of life is a journey. Share your knowledge with everyone you meet. Grow a world of successful, confident women. The reason I am doing this is because I believe that giving success to others by encouragement is in itself success. The end result is success for all. Pull your girlfriends, your daughters, your moms and grandma’s out of dependency with you. Think what the world would look like filled with confident women who raised their families and continued to contribute to the world.

The next post will start the 31 day collection of uplifting and inspirational affirmations. This is where your journey to independence starts. Read one a day. Focus on that one thing. You can’t help but move forward when you give yourself positive reinforcements. I hope this is helpful to all who use it. It is my intention to have as many friends succeed as possible. Please leave comments and join the community of women who want to love and support one another. Be sure to follow this blog for the e-mail updates.

Continuation of a Rant

I left off with “Be brave”. I know its easy to say when there is really not a lot to stand up to in life. I am not so naive to think there are not crushing issues people have to deal with. This is about making a choice to look beyond your circumstances. We could compare all day long and always find someone who will trump us in the horrible experience arena.

I am just dabbling in a creative project and hoping that it is helpful to others who can afford to look past their existence.

I am not a perfect person or an expert. I am not a health professional. I am just a woman at a crossroads looking for something more and questioning how to go about getting it. I even question if I should look for more. But I have concluded there has to be more than just clocking in everyday.

I am not giving advice to you. I am just sharing. I am reluctant to give advice. I have done that before and had to live with the consequences for my children. In their desire to please and impress, children will act on advice so fast sometimes that will make your head spin. Caution is always the rule.

I mentioned thoughtful as what I strive to be and hope everyone is. I do not know enough to advise you. I heard long ago that you should never seek advice from anyone who is less successful than you, in your area  of interest. Very wise indeed. Applying this would qualify me for some things but conversely also disqualifies me for many things. However, I am an expert at my experiences and what they taught me and you may be able to glean from them, help for yourself.

I am humbled today by the small sampling of blogs I perused. So much talent out there. So much to write about in terms of difficulties overcome or working on.

I bow to all of you. This is just a collection of hopefully helpful inspirations I want to share with those who want help maintaining focus on achieving goals for renewed independence and autonomy using positive reinforcement.That is what I am doing and have been doing for the last year.

I asked myself, “What am I to do with my life now?” I do not want to remain in the status quo. I am not ready to do nothing. Are you? What is retirement? If it looks like doing nothing, then I am out. If it has travel and fun and friends, unlimited resources and not a care in the world, I am in! Pretty sure the second scenario exists for a scant few in today’s world.

When we were young, newly hatched young people, we went out into the world with almost fearless anticipation of what we could accomplish. Our power was limited then because of our inexperience but over time add to those coffers and grow. Eventually we have some power and authority to run our own lives. Everyday obstacles that are overcome add to our power and independence. Prove you are capable and you continue. Now that I think of it, it is not unlike a video game but with real consequences. Some of us build careers. Some of us slog along without ambition to achieve more. Some of us long for a simple existence. We can, and do, chose. It is in the choosing that we may make some decisions that take root and sprout as problems today.

This is to encourage women, who like myself, decided to raise a family, which ultimately led to becoming a stay at home mom. This will also benefit anyone who  needs encouragement to change themselves or their lives. Take back your personal power. Reclaim your independence.